This is a movie for the broken people, the desperate people, the lonely people, the people who hide away from the world. At one point, Tom Noonan’s character says he’s writing a book for those people. But he’s a damn liar and he knows it.
The entirety of the film consists of a real-time depiction of a dinner date between two such people, just a man and woman alone in the woman’s apartment. With finely tuned dialogue and performances, with both humor and tension, the film reveals the moment-by-moment changes in the relationship between them: shifts in affection, power, perception of the other’s personality, perception of the other’s perception of one’s own personality; shifts subtle or overt, gradual or spontaneous. If anything, the dialogue is perhaps too precise in delineating these shifts, occasionally coming off as obvious in its construction.
But what is of most interest to me here is not these fine-grained movements in the relationship, but two overarching aspects that contain them. First, although no other characters appear in the film, the man and woman are acutely aware of the existence of others. The two do not merely exist for one another: they experience their interactions within the context of a plenitude of eyes, a whole social world around them and under the gaze of which their relationship falls. Typically, films do not emphasize this aspect of romance (if they acknowledge it at all), except perhaps in the concrete form of disapproving parents or neighbours. But Noonan’s film insists upon it immediately, by zooming in on all the people that can be seen through the windows of the woman’s apartment—the date occurs in an exposed world, in which all is at least potentially viewed by others, who are themselves exposed in the same manner. All around, infused into the experience of the date, is the potential for it to be seen and judged.
The second, more pervasive aspect that the film focuses on—and which is in some sense the foundation of all social interactions—is the power of the specific Other’s existence and gaze: not the diffuse haze of otherness across the way, but the concrete Other across the table. The Other’s gaze has the power to know you, to strip away the façade and see the festering wounds underneath. And at the same time, the Other refuses to conform to your expectations or idea of him or her: he or she is radically free of your conceptualization of the world, and this fact cannot be escaped…at least if you allow the Other to get under your skin. The two characters respond to these potentialities oppositely: The woman is anxious, eager to know the man better, to let him know her, and to let him know about the cake she bought and the book she wrote. The man, Noonan, hides behind a façade of composure, intellect, and scorn, afraid to know others and to be known: he wants the woman to know all about the book he is not writing, but not the fact that he is not writing it.
In the film’s two pivotal scenes, these opposite stances are pinpointed. In one scene, the woman reads the man a story she wrote. It’s a deeply personal work, a harrowing reinvention of the fairy tale genre; the woman is nervous about the man’s response, but she desperately wants to read it to him, to reveal herself to him. But the man is even more nervous about her revealing herself in this way. He’s uncomfortable with the openness, the intimacy. He wants everybody to behave as easily understood packages of traits, separated and closed off from one another. With heavy shadows and cuts to creepy dolls, the visuals wisely play up the frightful discomfort of the scene, the sense that something is being shown that the man fears. (And interestingly, during this scene the camera again zooms through a window to reveal an outsider in another apartment, again emphasizing the haze of otherness out there; the man is not merely afraid of intimacy, but of it altering his Being-in-the-social-world, the way he presents himself for the eyes of the abstract They.)
The second pivotal scene is the final one. In that scene, the man becomes so fearful of the situation that he gets set to leave for the night, pretending to be entirely oblivious to the woman’s pleas for connection. When she grows angry and correctly accuses him of disingenuousness, he admits that he is living a lie, that he is a broken man, a fearful man, an ashamed man who only likes to pretend to have written a book for such people, and who goes home everyday only to watch TV and lament all his failings. Finally, at this point, he wants the woman to know him, wants her to accept and comfort him. But it’s too late. He’s already screwed everything up. He’s been screwing it up for years.